“She wants to fuck him” I said.
Here’s the funny thing about men: we’re absolutely DESPERATE to get girls, learn about girls, and have girls. But we know almost nothing about them. At least not when it concerns us directly. This was the perfect case.
The girl on the lunch date was sending out all the physical cues that said “just stop talking and bend me over the hood of that Jalopy:" leaned slightly forward, one finger on her neck, lips parted, laughing at smiling at the first hint of a joke or witticism, the top button of her blouse undone…everything about her body screamed: just come over the table and take me.
Sure I could see it, but I don’t think that the guy she was talking to could. He continued blundering on, looking more nervous, and hardly allowing her a word edgewise. I couldn’t help but wonder how often I’d done the exact same thing. That’s the weird part about men: we can see that a girl across the street is attracted to the guy she’s eating with, but when we’re across the table from her, we’ve got no clue what’s going on.
The extreme case of this was back in college, I was hanging out in my room with a few friends, when my buddy called me. He was going to school hundreds of miles away and I spoke with him for a little and then passed the phone off to a girl who was drinking with us. He spoke to her for about 40 seconds, before she gave the phone back to me.
“He wants to talk to you” she said.
“Hey, what’s up?”
“Yo, you know she likes you, right?” he asked.
To this day I have no clue how it was that obvious to him. I’d known the girl for an entire semester and had no idea.
I began wondering today whether women are aware of the physical and verbal cues they send out. Are they thinking, “For God’s sake, run your finger over the rim of your glass! Push out those breasts!”? Is it something planned? Are they doing those things purposely? The only reason I ask, is because generally I’ve got no clue WHAT my hands are doing when I’m talking to a girl I like. I suspect it’s nothing nearly as erotic. No woman’s ever said to me, “The moment I saw you rub your eyes with your fists like a six-year-old, I knew I had to have you.”
So I guess my questions for the day are:
- Are women aware when they’re sending cues that say, “Can’t you just rip my clothes off right now?”
- Do guys send out physical cues when they’re interested in a girl? And no, slipping roofies into a drink doesn’t count as flirting.
4 comments:
Lately I have been hanging out with this guy. We walk a lot and while doing this, I also end up doing most of the talking. This guy gives me absolutely no clue as to whether he just wants to hang out or if he has some sort of interest in me. I mean, I know it's a good sign that he keeps calling, but I have all but given up being anything other than a walking partner.
I would have thought that my feelings were really obvious but then I am used to just manipulating the situation to get what I wanted. This time, I have started by taking a less agressive approach which just hasn't paid off. And now I am just bored even thinking of taking him.
When I was younger, I used to set my sites and just go for it. For the most part, I had no trouble getting what I wanted - even if he was in a relationship. Nowadays, however, I feel that I need to be careful not to scare this person off.
To get back to your question, I think that all women know that we send out these signals. It's probably an inherited human trait that is meant to attract the opposite sex in order to mate. However, now it seems as if the male half of that biological equation has just become so oblivious that females could just be wasting their time.
So, I ask you, what's a girl to do?
I suggest toplessness. Nothing like showing off the goods to attract a man.
Seriously though, you needn't do anything that obvious, but it might not be a bad thing to take charge of the situation a little. I know that I've been stuck in the friendship limbo more times than I'd like. Eventually, I just make a move that's impossible to misinterpret. Figure it this way: would you really like to hang out with this person if there's no chance of ass? If not, then what have you got to lose. If so, it's better to just get the failed romantic attempt out of the way.
If all else fails, I suggest introducing alcohol to your walks. Then you ask him to sit on a bench, snuggle up to him, and do that little fake shiver that you ladies do so well. The only possible outcome to that scenario is heavy petting. Play nice, and no need to thank me. Just promise you'll scream out my name when you're getting ass in the park.
I don't think men go for walks with people they aren't interested in. I have also been told men aren't friends with women that they aren't interested in sleeping with... Don't know if that is true or not but that is what I was told...
Make a move if your interested in him... that is the only way to tell if it is that or not right?
Thanks for the advice both of you. However, neither of us are into alcohol and recreational drugs are not an option. I guess that honesty is best considering the situation.
And eeeekkk? I will surely scream your name...
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